Tears of a dying man

Photo by Hanan Hashi on Unsplash

Yesterday, I and a few other prison residents got to hold space for a 60-year-old man who has leukemia as he shared his pain and anger at how his life turned out. He expressed deep regret at the choices he made in his youth and a longing to continue to provide for his family even though he hasn't been able to even meet his grandchildren. To be able to hold space for a dying man who says he has no one else with whom to share his feelings is sacred. As he expressed embarrassment at his tears, another man told him that his tears are necessary and welcome while another told him he understands his pain because he has been there, too. It was a touching circle of support and kindness. 

There is something about witnessing this rawness and connection that makes me think, "THIS is real life," which I don't always feel outside of prison where our interactions can be more formal and careful. My time "inside," sharing the principles of Nonviolent Communication, helps me deepen my understanding of what it means to be human. I carry this wisdom with me every day. I am so grateful to be able to do this work and I thank all the forces that led me to this place. 

Sunaina, the honor is all ours. You are a precious treasure and light to us and to the residents who are blessed to participate in your Nonviolent Communication program. Thank you for your generosity and care.

Above shared by Sunaina Marquez, facilitator extraordinaire of Brilliance Inside’s Nonviolent Communication program